Jul 26 2008
Bad Dreams and Boyfriends
Have you ever had a dream where the person you are with suddenly decides they don’t want to be with you anymore? They’re totally a different person and in that dream, no matter how much reasoning you do, you can’t change their mind.
And then, when you wake up, for those first few seconds you think that the dream is true, until you start to come out of your slumber and realize it was all a dream.
So what happens if the person you are with shows up one day and tells you they don’t want to be with you anymore?
If that happened to me, I’d first demand an explanation. They better have a very good reason to break up with me when everything was perfectly fine in the first place. This is also why communication is so important in a relationship, so you know if something is bothering the other person.
Then I’d listen to them and hear what they have to say. If he didn’t give a reason as to why he was breaking up with me, I’d probably throw a few things around and kick him out. A real man will give you a reason as to why he’s doing it. (Although, would he really be a real man if he broke up with you when things were going fine?)
After that, I’d call up my friends and tell them I had an emergency crisis. No matter how bad I’m feeling, my friends always make me feel better by telling me what I need to hear.
On the other spectrum, what would you do if you were the one to wake up one day and didn’t want to be with the person you were with?
I’ve actually had this happen a few times. I literally woke up in the morning and it was clear in my mind that I didn’t want to be with the person I was dating. Of course I gave them a reason, (I’m sure not a good enough one for them), but I remember never doing it right away. I would wait a few days and think about my answer in order to let them down as easy as possible. But it scares me that I’ve had this happen, and it scares me sometimes that I’ll do it again. You just never know what will happen. But usually, when I’ve done this, the relationship had problems and there were things that really bothered me about it. (Another reason why communication is good).
So, to avoid this happening to you OR the other person, keep an eye out for potential problems that could arise in your relationship and fix them as soon as they show up.
