Jul 28 2008
Meeting New People
I was recently asked where a guy (who recently got out of a 14-year relationship) can go to meet women. After a few moments, I realized I didn’t have an answer for that. I know of places to go for people my age, but they aren’t places that older people might go.
I did tell this person to make sure he didn’t go to the bar to meet a woman. But as for the advice I gave, I said that you can go anywhere as long as you have confidence in yourself. Confidence is the key to making yourself attractive. If you are feeling down, pick yourself up and at least ‘pretend’ you are confident, no one will ever know if you are just acting.
I’m not saying that you should be fake and act like someone you’re not, just be yourself but with a little more assertiveness. If you are afraid to go into a place to meet someone, then take your time.
Let’s say you see a person working at a store you stop into every day. Become a regular and make small talk with them every time you come in. Even if it’s just to ask how they are doing, or ask their name, just make sure you linger a little to get them to notice you are sticking around to talk to them.
Then gradually you can start to talk to them more and more. If they aren’t interested, most likely they will tell you they are busy or something and ignore you or try to be nice about it. If that’s the case, then move on and find someone else.
But if they do seem interested, keep talking to them until you get enough courage to ask them out. We’re all afraid of rejection, but sometimes you just have to see what happens.
Maybe you’ll get a better response than you think.
