Aug 05 2008
How to Break Up With Someone
There are many ways to break up with a person, some more common than others. In my experience I’ve had good and bad breakups. While I usually like to keep the breakup good, there is one time when being nice about it led to being stalked for a long time. Here are some common ways to break up with a person you no longer want to be with.
1. Use the “It’s not you, it’s me” Speech. This is a classic breakup line that I’ve brought up before, and it’s one that will forever be used. If someone says this to you, just know that of course it’s you! You’re the problem and that’s why they don’t want to be with you, but they are too chicken or too afraid of you to tell you the truth. If you ever get this line said to you, know that it is you and either work to fix it, or move on and find someone else you better connect with.
2. Not calling back. In the beginning of a relationship, if one person doesn’t click with the other, they usually just stop calling. That’s the new trend these days is to go out with someone, decide you don’t like them, and never call them again. Ahh, such an easy way out for most men. Problem is, you start to get many angry women out there that become wary and cautious of the next guy they go out with. Which, in turns, ruins it for that next guy unless they are willing to work with them. Don’t use the ‘no call’ approach, it just makes you look like a jerk and you might make it a habit, which means your luck will soon run out on you.
3. Avoidance. Many people use this method and it works for awhile, but you’ll soon get caught up in your lies and it’ll come back to bite you in the ass. You could keep saying you’re ‘busy’ with your friends and can’t go out, but sooner or later you’ll have to face the facts and breakup with the person.
4. Be open and honest. Although it’s hard, this is probably the best way to break up with someone. Sit them down and calmly (no yelling!) explain to them why this relationship isn’t working for you and that you would like to move your separate ways. Be stern with them and don’t let them talk you into anything you don’t want to do. This way you will look like a better person and you will get your point across at the same time.
