Aug 30 2008
Does it Really Matter Who Broke Up With Who?
Sometimes in a breakup people can get quite vicious. It then becomes an issue of who’s going to break up with who first.
This can sometimes turn into a “kid fight”.
“I broke up with you.”
“No, I broke up with YOU!”
Who cares? Does it really matter who broke up with who if the relationship is over anyways? In my experience, I could care less who breaks up with who. Sure, things are different when you don’t see the breakup coming or when you aren’t ready to let go, but is it really a big deal that I was “dumped” or that I kicked someone to the curb?
No, it isn’t, but it always comes up in conversation. For me, I’m usually the person that breaks up with someone, but a few times I’ve forced someone to break up with me. The reason I do this? Because in the past I’ve been stalked by someone, and when I wanted to end things I tried to make it easier on him and be his friend, but he just took that as a wrong sign and couldn’t accept the fact that we were over. If I would have started a fight, or did something I knew he didn’t like, then maybe he would have broken up with me first and that would have saved me from being followed for 2 years.
Some of my friends act like it’s a victory that they’ve been the first one to break up with a guy. Breakups are sad, it shouldn’t be something to celebrate just because you got the last words in.
We’re adults here, but sometimes adults can act like such children. And when they do act like children, then they are not ready for an adult relationship.
