Sep 07 2008
Settling for Someone
I was out with my friend tonight and we got into a discussion about the types of men we like. For me, I said that mostly it’s the initial attraction that gets me and keeps me there.
No matter how bad they are for me, I tend to choose men that are attractive and really don’t care about anything else. This, of course, has not really worked for me.
So my friend said that maybe I should settle for someone less attractive and who knows, they might be a cool person and someone that would be right for me. I guess that’s good in theory and all, because since I base everything on looks and it hasn’t worked, maybe I should try something different.
But, I don’t really think I should have to settle. I mean, should anyone really have to settle for someone?
I guess what I’m saying is that I have to have that attraction there, and whether or not they are a jerk is up to me to decide as to whether or not I want to stay with them. Against my better judgment, I always end up staying until I can’t take it anymore.
But I don’t want to settle. And I don’t think anyone else should have to either. I’m content being single until the next person comes along, and if things go bad and my heart gets broken, then so be it. Life is about taking chances, not keeping yourself guarded up to maybe let someone in once in awhile.
I don’t want to settle, but I’m afraid I’m going to continue on this destructive path I’m walking. What’s a girl to do? 
I don’t think you should settle. It’s not going to work for you because you’re still going to be looking for that “perfect” person who ticks all the boxes, and it’s not fair on the person you “settle” for to feel that they aren’t good enough or don’t measure up. Keep looking, you’ll probably find the person you want when you least expect it.