Sep 26 2008
Signs You Are Dating a Loser
None of us want to believe the guy we are dating is indeed a loser. Many times we miss these signs, but friends and family are always there to remind us why we should get away from a loser. Sometimes we listen, but many times we don’t and instead find out the hard way. Here are some signs that you are dating a loser:
1. He never wants to go anywhere. With the way gas prices are these days, it sucks going on road trips or anywhere just to go driving. My friends and I used to do mini road trips all the time and those were some of the best times of my life, but sadly it’s too hard to do that now without spending over $50 at the gas pump. But that’s totally different than what I’m talking about with a loser. A loser will just want to stay at home and doesn’t care whether you stay with him or not, he’s content on being at home, even if it is by himself. You can offer to drive, or offer to give gas money, but in the end the loser would just rather be sitting at home sleeping or watching tv.
2. He talks a lot about past girlfriends. Sooner or later in a relationship, talks about exes come up. However, the loser will always be the first to bring up his past exes as if he’s not over any of them. And when you listen to these stories, of course it will always be the ex girlfriend’s fault as to why the relationship didn’t work, because the loser tells you what a nice person he is and can’t understand why someone wouldn’t want to be with him. These types of men could still be stuck in their past relationships and you don’t want to deal with any of that. They aren’t worth your time. If you waste time on them, you’ll find out later on what a mistake you made.
3. He doesn’t respect you. I love a man that I can have a great conversation with, but sometimes the talks can turn into heated arguments. It can still stay innocent if you are just discussing your different viewpoints on something, but the loser will always try to bring down your thoughts on something by telling you why your opinion is wrong.
4. He looks at other girls in front of you. Now, I get that most men like to look, but there’s a difference between looking and outright drooling and calling another girl hot right in front of you. This also falls under the ‘no respect’ rule, because it’s just wrong. No normal guy should ever talk about how hot another girl is when you are around. That’s fine when they are with their guy friends, but not when you are standing right there.
5. He makes fun of you. This often starts as harmless joking around, but can quickly become annoying. I hate getting made fun of because really, I don’t deserve it. Especially not from the person that I’m dating. But the loser won’t grasp the fact that it is making you angry and annoyed, because he will just keep on continuing to pick on you even after telling him you don’t like it. The loser then turns it into some kind of game, where he sees how far he can go until you get mad.
6. He’s not affectionate at all. When a man likes a woman, he will shower her with love. However, a loser doesn’t know how to act in a romantic situation. He will continue to act like a childish moron until you get to the point that you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone that has no affection for you. He may have trouble showing his emotions, but come on, a loser that doesn’t give any sign that he’s happy to be with you is in fact, a loser.
7. He makes you feel bad about yourself. There are many losers out there that are emotional and physical abusers, and you shouldn’t subject yourself to any of that. No one has the right to make another person feel bad or low about themselves, but it’s up to you to get out of that situation. Tell the loser goodbye and that you aren’t going to be his punching bag any longer. And then run. Far away.
8. He always brings up how broke he is. I don’t care how broke a guy is, but when he is constantly bringing it up that gets on my nerves. Some things you should just keep to yourself. It’s like they are trying to let me know they are broke so that I’ll feel bad and pay for something. Well, no. You got along fine before me, you can get along fine without me. Bye-Bye. p.s. There are plenty of men out there that are financially stable that would be happy to take you out and not complain about the prices.
Note: These are just some of the signs that I have encountered over the years from the losers that I have dated. You may have even more signs of losers, and if you do I invite you to share those.
Do I sound bitter? Probably. Do I care? Not really. This is just what I feel like writing about today.
Boy, I could have used a great blog like this in the mid-nineties! Fortunately I’m happily married and have been for twelve years now, but looking over that list I can definitely point out a few past boyfriends who were DEFINITE losers!
Just wanted to say that while I agree with most of what’s posted, after reading another site, I’m not too sure. Of course the other site was written by a male psychologist but he made it seem like if you judge the person you’re with, then you’re the loser, not the other way around. So now I’m confused.