Oct 27 2008
Talking on Phone for First Time
So the eHarmony guy called me again last night. This time I answered, since my voice is a little better from my cold.
I usually have no problem talking to people, it’s never awkward or anything. I mean, I talk to tons of people I don’t know every day.
But this call was awkward. I don’t know if it was on his end or my end, but there were uncomfortable silences and I hate those. I tried to fill them by asking him stuff, but once he answered the questions I asked, it was like he didn’t have much more to say. And I wasn’t really sure what to ask him because we talked about a lot of stuff in emails.
We ended up talking for about an hour, then my phone started to die. He ended the call by asking if I wanted to meet, and I said sure. I told him I’d call him when I got over my cold, and he said he’s free this week and next week.
I was a little surprised after just one phone call wanting to make plans to meet. My other friends that do this usually talk a few times, sometimes even a month before they meet the person. Me, I’m pretty spontaneous so I do what I feel like at the time, but I’m not sure I’m ready to meet him in person yet, especially since the first phone call was just plain…i don’t know…boring?
I know some people aren’t phone people, so I’ll give him that I guess. But I was struggling with things to come up with to talk about with him because his answers were so short and didn’t lead to any other topics, so I’m wondering what the heck we would talk about in person. But, if we go for drinks, like he suggested, sometimes alcohol loosens people up a little bit and gets them to talk.
There are a few other people that I’m communicating with through email on eHarmony, so I think I’ll check those out too. I also know that some people have been on places like eHarmony for a long time, so they don’t think twice about speeding up the process in order to get to the meetings. But I’m still fairly new at this whole online thing, so I think I’ll just take my time.
