Are You Kidding Me?

So….my friend is going to break up with her boyfriend today because she just isn’t happy. I think they’ve only been together a few months, but she’s seen some signs that make her uncomfortable. I say…good for her in getting out early.

She wants to meet him in a public place to do it, instead of at either of their houses, so they are meeting somewhere today and she wants me to go there with her. We won’t arrive together or anything, I’m just going to bring a book, get some pop or something and sit there and read.

I’m not even going to look around for her, because of course I’d make it obvious, but if I happen to see her I’ll keep an eye on things. I told her to text me when she leaves so I know she’s gone.

She’s actually on her way over to my place now because they aren’t meeting for another few hours. I have nothing else to do today, so I’m more than happy to go. Even if I had something to do, I’d cancel and still go up there with her because I know she’s nervous about him causing a scene or getting really angry or something.

I’ve never met the guy, so I don’t know who I’m looking for. But it’ll be nice to just sit somewhere and know that some type of drama is going on. Well, not a nice thing, but still. I’ll be there for a reason.

I think I hear her pulling in now. I’ll let you know how it goes.

Well, I’m pretty sure I caught Psycho following me again today. For those who don’t know, Psycho is an ex of mine that stalked me for two years and I ended up having him arrested and took him to court so I could obtain a 5 year protection order. That was last October. Since then it’s been pretty quiet, but as I was driving home today, I noticed a car behind me that had the same driving pattern as Psycho did. As in, driving towards the right side of the road so I couldn’t see him in my side mirror, and looking out the window as if he was sightseeing and not staring straight ahead.

I got what I could for a license plate number, and then went to the police. I must have gotten the plate wrong, because it came back as a different model car than what I saw.

I hate this shit. Why don’t people understand the word ‘No’? When someone doesn’t want you anymore, what gives you the right to follow them and make their life hell? Why is another person allowed to put someone in fear for their life? Who deserves that?

And the sad part is, these stalkers get away with a lot of stuff. It was hell for me to go to court every time just to have the case be continued. It served his purpose though, he would get to look at me and stare at me in court.

People that aren’t citizens of the US and have criminal charges racking up against them should be automatically deported. He was being charged with menacing by stalking, but like I said, I was put through hell with this and finally just gave up because I couldn’t face going to court anymore and have him look at me. So it was brought down to a disorderly conduct. But he has multiple drunk driving charges too, so this combined should be getting immigration to look at him for deportation. It’s just not fair.

I was once told that a stalker will always break their restraining order. Well, if I’m right and this was him following behind me today, then I guess there’s going to be some problems for him.

Why do the bad people always get away with stuff?

Today I stayed home and did absolutely nothing. I had all these plans to do stuff, but just sat on the couch all day mostly writing some articles and watching movies. It’s kind of nice to do that once in awhile. I guess I got some work done, but nothing I had planned.

A friend called me up today and invited me to go shopping. I politely declined, because there was no way I was going out on Black Friday. I don’t care how many deals there are out there, I can’t stand crowds and crowds of people, and usually get cranky and mean when forced into a large crowd, so I decided to give society a break today and stay home.

Anyways, the friend that had called is one I haven’t talked to in awhile, and she called me to ask about eHarmony, because she heard I had signed up. She just wanted to know basic questions about it, but it got us talking about meeting people for the first time. She said that recently she met someone from Pennsylvania, so now that she got that one meeting out of the way, she wasn’t afraid to meet anyone else.

I hope it’s like that for me the first time I meet someone there. Since I’m not used to meeting people over the Internet, it’s kind of a new thing for me.

Does the whole eHarmony process seem like one big long interview?

I have no idea why I went to sleep at 2:30 in the morning last night and woke up not-so bright and early today at 7. Maybe I’m excited about all the Thanksgiving food I’m going to devour.

Today the family is all congregating at my grandma’s house. I figure I’ll arrive there around 2, that way I won’t really have to talk to anyone and the food will be ready.

But this year, I refuse to eat too much turkey because I always succumb to the turkey coma, and fall asleep in my grandma’s bed for 4 hours.  And then I wake up feeling like crap for some reason and it takes me another 4 hours to fully wake up from my slumber. So then the day is pretty much ruined, because for 8 hours I do absolutely nothing.

Have a happy Thanksgiving and may all your food fantasies come true!

Well, today is Thanksgiving Eve, and tonight is known in most parts as the biggest drinking night of the year. Bars are filled around here with partiers and it’s generally a good time.

Up until last year, I had no idea about the day before Thanksgiving until a few friends invited me out. Of course, I almost got hit by a truck, which then started a confrontation between the driver and my friend. How was I supposed to know the guy would switch lanes when I was walking across the street?

We still had a fun night and were surrounded by fun drunk people.

So for all those going out tonight, have a safe time and have a shot of Jager on me.

This weather outside is horrible. I HATE the snow. Of course, my sister and I went driving around, because we’re addicted to Polar Pops at Circle K. So when she called me up saying she was thirsty, I knew what this meant.

I braved the icy snowy roads to go pick her up since my 4 wheel drive is awesome now. So as we headed out on our journey, I couldn’t help but make a few detours around the city. And as I did this, going the speed limit of 35 mph, I was still followed closely by some idiot that thinks it’s summertime outside and he can freely drive the roads at 50+ mph.

But whatever, the roads are full of people that can’t drive. But we did get to enjoy our Polar Pops. That first sip of carbonated pop through the straw is the best. We didn’t even notice the people staring at us while we closed our eyes enjoying the bliss that is a Polar Pop. So we drove back home in the snowstorm while telling each other funny stories of the past. Mainly me talking about the weird guys I’ve dated.

Yeah, I totally need a boyfriend. A normal one.

I get a lot of people asking questions about what to do when he said he would call or text and doesn’t. Well, for one, if a guy is really interested in you, provided that some accident or family problem hasn’t happened, he will definitely get ahold of you if he wants to.

But what do you do when he says he’ll call or text and you are sitting around waiting because he hasn’t?

If it were me, I would call or text once, leave a message and see if he gets back to me. I’ve already made the initiative once by doing this, so now it is up to him to respond. And as far as waiting goes? Find something else to do during this time so you aren’t constantly watching your phone.

If he never responds back, then chances are he wasn’t going to call you in the first place. Don’t make it worse by constantly sending more messages or voicemails, this will only make you look less than desirable.

Sometimes men can say a lot of things they don’t mean, thus leading you on and hoping he will call wanting to go out. Busy yourself with doing something else, and try not to think twice if he hasn’t contacted you. That just means he wasn’t worth your time anyways.

So I convinced my friend to join eHarmony this weekend, mostly because she’s tired of meeting the wrong guys as well. Not that eHarmony would necessarily have the right guys, it’s just something different.

So now she’s all into it and excited to get responses from people. We ended up having her call eHarmony to get a discount for 3 months, since I couldn’t find any good codes online. I would recommend that to anyone wanting to join - call them and they’ll give you a good deal.

It’s kind of exciting to meet different types of people and also to know there are lots of people out there. Sometimes I feel like I’m stuck here in Ohio, but I also love Cleveland sometimes, it’s a cool place with many different things to do. I guess I just need to go out more to different events. Except in the wintertime, I hate that.

I might go gambling tomorrow, depends on how I feel when I wake up. I have to time it right so I don’t get stuck in rush hour traffic. I get nervous driving with so many cars close around me.

I ran into a woman I know today…and she’s gone through some rough patches in life recently. She’s 50 years old, and the man she was with for 32 years left her and decided to move away…(yet still calls her telling her he loves her, etc.).

Anyway, she told me today that she joined eHarmony in an effort to get out there. Sure, she was still crying over her ex, but wants to move on with her life and find someone that she can spend some time with.

I was surprised and happy for her at the same time. I know eHarmony is something that anyone can try, I just always thought people my age and younger used it. But good for her for getting herself back in the dating scene.  She got me thinking about how it’s never too late and no matter what happens in life, you can always look forward and try to make things better.

I hope she finds someone through eHarmony. I’m sure it’ll be difficult for her with all the emotions she’s dealing with, but maybe she will find someone that wants to be happy just like she does.

I was out with my friend yesterday and we started to have a conversation about the new guy she’s seeing. She met him off of eHarmony about a month or two ago.

Well, we got on the subject of her cats, and she was telling me how this new guy was allergic to animals. I asked her what she would do if they got married. And this friend, who we call the Crazy Cat Lady because she LOVES her cats, actually said that she’s thought about that and would have to give them up.

I was…..surprised. She’s had two of these cats since they were little babies, and they are now about 6 years old. I was shocked that she would give her animals up just because the guy she Thinks she may marry one day is allergic.

Aren’t there medicines out there our something that he could take? I don’t know, I would never give my two cats up for anyone. Yes, I may highly dislike my evil cat Steve, but all they know is me and I could never do that to them. They’ve been there for me when I’ve cried, come home in a bad mood, needed a hug, etc.

How could I ever abandon them because of a relationship I think MIGHT work out? And what if it doesn’t work out, and I gave my cats away…I know I’d be regretting it big time.

My thoughts on this are that if a guy likes me, he has to like everything about me, including my two cats. Sure, they aren’t going to live forever, but they are here with me now, and the person I’m with has to accept that. (And be an animal lover himself.)

What do you think? Would you give up your animals if a guy was allergic to them?