Nov 24 2008
He Said He’d Call, Where is He?
I get a lot of people asking questions about what to do when he said he would call or text and doesn’t. Well, for one, if a guy is really interested in you, provided that some accident or family problem hasn’t happened, he will definitely get ahold of you if he wants to.
But what do you do when he says he’ll call or text and you are sitting around waiting because he hasn’t?
If it were me, I would call or text once, leave a message and see if he gets back to me. I’ve already made the initiative once by doing this, so now it is up to him to respond. And as far as waiting goes? Find something else to do during this time so you aren’t constantly watching your phone.
If he never responds back, then chances are he wasn’t going to call you in the first place. Don’t make it worse by constantly sending more messages or voicemails, this will only make you look less than desirable.
Sometimes men can say a lot of things they don’t mean, thus leading you on and hoping he will call wanting to go out. Busy yourself with doing something else, and try not to think twice if he hasn’t contacted you. That just means he wasn’t worth your time anyways.
I don’t want to spend time obsessing over someone who isn’t interested in me. Ok, so I do it, but I don’t want to. I’d rather waste my energies on someone who cares about me. If he’s interested, he’ll call or text. If he doesn’t, then you know how he feels. Time to move on.
Hey, thanks for visiting my site and leaving a comment. I didn’t think anyone ever fell for those Nigerian scams either. It’s sad. How can people be so gullible?
A big “I agree” regarding your blog post. As you said, if someone is interested in you, barring an accident, they’ll contact you.
@Sarah: I sometimes do the same thing, but I’ve learned that it doesn’t get me anywhere except more heartache.
@Kev: I’m so surprised that people call for those stupid scams. All they need is to find out your last name in order to tell you your ‘relative’ passed away. So stupid.
As the old adage goes: actions speak louder than words. I’m a big believer in if someone wants to speak with you, they will find a way. Don’t sit around wasting your time worrying about when or why - if it has been a reasonable period of time and he/she hasn’t called, then MOVE ON. This isn’t the kind of person you want in your world anyway! Go out and find someone who is WORTHY of your time.