Jan 04 2009
My Sister’s eHarmony Date
Well, it actually happened. My sister met a guy from eHarmony the other night, while I sat a few tables away.
My friend and I ended up getting there before they did, and we were seated all the way in the back, facing the whole restaurant. Perfect view.
My sister meets the guy outside and they walk in together. He’s cute, in a dorky sort of way, but doesn’t really look like the pictures he posted.
I tried to get a good look at them, but there was a bald guy in my line of vision, so I had to peek around him a few times. Her eHarmony guy made eye contact with me twice, so I got scared that I was caught, and stopped staring. I was all paranoid that he would see the resemblance in us, but with my VERY blond highlights now, I still don’t see how people can think we look so much alike.
According to her, after they left the restaurant, he asked her if she wanted to do something else. So she said yeah, we can go to a bar. He told her he didn’t go to bars and that they could go back to his place to watch a movie (which was 45 minutes away).
She declined, and said he seemed to get mad about it. He then said ‘So what, are you going out with friends or something?’ and she told him Yes. I guess that seemed to make him more irritated.
The night ended with a hug for her, but she didn’t feel the connection and hasn’t heard from him since. Guess he wasn’t too happy that she wouldn’t go to his place.
What does he expect though? I mean, if a girl that you Just Met doesn’t want to go back to your place, why get mad about it?
I think that’s what ruined his chances. She was totally turned off by that. I would have been, too. But I would have told him that I just met him and there was no way I was going back to his place. Oh well, she’s been talking to someone else on eHarm, so hopefully that is a better choice.
Uhhhhh yeahhhh I don’t know very many girls of upstanding character that WOULD go back to a guy’s house the first time she’s met him. That’s really odd that he would get mad about it. I’d drop that one like a hot potato…
Angi: That’s what I’m saying. It’s fine if you invite them back and have good intentions, but you should also be aware that many girls would not come back to your place, so don’t expect them to say yes. And getting mad about it is just weird…
This guy has issues. Even if he had good intentions, it’s not as if your sister blew him off when he asked if she wanted to do something else. She suggested a bar — a suggestion he torpedoed. To get mad when she doesn’t go for YOUR suggestion screams “I am awkward and possibly a psychopath.”
Kev: Yes, even if he had good intentions, he would have suggested maybe going to a quiet coffee shop, or going to see a movie at the theatre if he wanted to see a movie so bad. The point is that he got mad, which leads me to believe his intentions weren’t good in the first place.
This reminds me of a match.com date I had once - It was a second date and he brought me to his parents house for dinner. It was a bit creepy.
http://radiating29.today.com/
Are you going to crash her next date? It’s lots of fun for us!
Sarah: Of course I am! Thank god she doesn’t want to ever go to these things alone.