Jan 07 2009
eHarmony Must Haves and Can’t Stands
There’s one thing on eHarmony that I really can’t stand.
Underneath one of the many sections you fill out, there is a place to pick Must-Have’s and Can’t-Stands. These are statements that you pick out that are most important to you in another partner.
One of them says something like ‘I must have a partner who is considered “very attractive” by most current standards.’ And if this is really really important to you, you can list it as one of your ‘Must Haves’.
I’m not sure why this is there, really. I mean, when someone lists that as something they absolutely MUST HAVE, it turns me off. And many of the guys that check that box are hardly considered “very attractive by most current standards”.
Of the many statements that are listed, is that really one of the most important things they are looking for? I mean, attraction is a must-have, but why must they be attractive to people in society? Aren’t there people that are attracted to someone, not because they are wanted by everyone else in the world, but because they see something in that person that others might not see?
I doubt I’ll have much luck on this site, because I don’t like many of the statements that they want you to pick. Plus, I specifically state that I don’t want any matches that have children, yet I get many of those everyday.
Oh well, we’ll see what happens I guess.
I’ve never used a dating site like eHarmony, but it seems like having “I must have a partner who is considered ‘very attractive’ by most current standards” is a good option for them to include because it allows you to IMMEDIATELY dismiss someone who chooses that option as a must have! I’m with you…the notion of ending up with someone who would shun me if my face was ever SLIGHTLY scarred in an accident doesn’t interest me.
Of course, it doesn’t make ANY sense for them to send you matches with kids when you’ve specifically stated you didn’t want matches with kids. What’s up with that? Is it a bug in the system?
Uhhhh…yeah…who decides who is considered “very attractive”? Someone not so “attractive” to one person might be drop dead gorgeous to another. That’s stupid.
On a related note, I was watching some reality show the other night (not so much watching as I simply had the tv on while I was surfing the ‘net) and they were taking contestants and having them be judged by a Professional Beauty Analyst (I think that’s what they called him). He was scoring them, I guess 90-94 points is considered “good looking” and 95-100 points is “star quality”. What kind of bonehead sets themselves up like that, when their “qualifications” include things like a perfectly symmetrical face, the perfectly shaped eyes, the right length of neck, etc. Who decides all that in the first place???
So, you should put that on your eHarmony profile, perhaps. “Must have a man with exactly a 6″ neck.”
Kev: No, I think they are stretching to send me matches, so I don’t complain or anything like that. I also stated that I wanted someone between the age of 28 to 36 and am now getting matched with 24-41 year old men.
Angi: Yeah, that show sounds really lame. There’s really such a title as Professional Beauty Analyst? Is that a job??? That’s like when I wanted to go to school forever and call myself a Professional Student.
LOL - I agree with Kev on that one. It is really a good one to have because you can steer clear of those guys and gals who care that much about your looks. Generally, they are insecure and feel that if the person they are with is super “hot”, it adds to their value as a person somehow. I did find my Bebe on E, so I can’t complain much about the process. Good luck if you stick with it!
Gabrielle: Yeah, it’s kind of a turn off to me when they put that they want someone considered ‘very attractive’ or whatever it says.
Not sure if I’ll stay with it, but of course I’ll let you know if I do.