Are You Kidding Me?

Well, today is New Years Eve, and what do I usually do on this day? Not a thing. Not since New Years Eve a few years ago…

My friends and I heard about a singles party that went on every year so we decided to check it out, instead of bringing in the New Year at some bar.

This singles party was held at a Holiday Inn near where I lived, so we were kind of excited to go somewhere different. Once there, we paid about $40 each to get in. Yes, it was very expensive, but we thought we’d celebrate in style.

Once inside the huge ballroom, we couldn’t really see much because it was kind of dark. But we could see enough to know that there were a lot of people there. We decided to make our way around the room to check it out. Big mistake that was.

As soon as we walked together (all 4 of us), we all felt like we were on display. We literally felt like pieces of cattle being paraded around for buyers. Creepy men were leering at us, cat-calling, and other various hand gestures to try to get our attention.

As for the women, most were very older than ourselves and on the dance floor, wearing such low-cut tops that I feared their boobs would pop out when they went to raise their arms.

All of us wanted to leave, but I didn’t want to waste what we had paid to get in. So I made my friends go out on the dance floor with me and at least dance off some of the money we paid to get in. We danced, while quickly looking around to watch our backs, for about 5 minutes and bolted out of there.

Of course, we ended up celebrating the New Year at some bar, but it was a helluva lot better than staying at that sausage fest. I have since warned others to never EVER go to a singles party at the Holiday Inn.

Have a safe and happy New Year to everyone!

So the Smooth Talker came into the store today. I wasn’t expecting to see all of them, I kinda figured they were done with all their construction work. I was off to the side talking to my mom before I left, and I saw him walk in, turn around and walk out. So I assumed he had seen me and walked out.

But no, he walked back in, this time with his coat taken off and sporting his t-shirt showing off his prison muscles.

So I continued to talk to my mom while him and his buddies walked around the store for their food and stuff. So he gets to the front register, and by this point me and my mom are talking about him, and he keeps looking over. My mom is like ‘I think he’s trying to make eye contact’. But I wouldn’t look. And it was so obvious that he kept staring over by where I was standing. So once the cashier rang him up, he kind of lingered around his buddies, (which was strange because he usually bolts out the door).

So then he goes to walk out, all this time staring my way (I could feel his eyes on me) and so I turn to look at him and I gave him a friendly smile and he just nods his head slightly as he walks out.

::eye roll::

Totally obvious that he STILL thinks I’m going to call him and be like ‘Oh, I miss you so much!’ Yeah, like that’s going to happen.

I seriously hope it rains or snows so bad this week that they aren’t called into work. For as little as I’m there, I seem to run into him a lot. Although, I think it’s been about 2 weeks since I last saw him.

Maybe it’ll be longer this time.

Here is my list of things that I like about being single:

• I can have a day to myself without feeling bad about it
• I can go out whenever I want
• I can go out with WHOever I want
• I can flirt with anyone I want
• I don’t have to explain myself to anyone
• I don’t have to feel bad about having guy friends
• I’m free to meet many types of different people
• I don’t have to ‘check-in’ with someone
• I have my place all to myself
• I don’t feel obligated to return any phone calls
• I can wear what I want to
• I don’t have to explain myself to someone
• I don’t have to put up with annoying quirks
• I can make plans at the last minute
• I can watch whatever I want on TV
• There’s no one to get into arguments with
• I don’t have anyone judging me or being mean to me

For now, that’s all I can think of. I had a few more cool ones I thought of last night, but I’ve forgotten them now.

Anyone else want to add to the list of what you like about being single?

This is my cat, Steve. Up until now, I’ve always thought Steve was a good judge of character in the guys I’d date. There were some he didn’t like because he’d make it so obvious, so I’d have no choice but to let those guys go.

For example, one guy I dated, Steve hated. Steve peed all over the place, and even peed on me one time. I’m surprised he didn’t pee on my other cat. Or even on the guy he hated! Anyways, I think that was my sign to kick the guy out. Another time I had a guy over, and Steve just sat on the ledge and openly stared at him evilly. That relationship didn’t last long either.

But sadly Steve has failed me. The last guy I dated, Steve fell in love with. He would purr around him, rub up against him, and fall asleep in his lap. Yeah, thanks Steve. Nice choice there.

But then I got to thinking. You see, I think Steve is evil. He’s nothing like my other cat, and he just seems to want to cause trouble all the time. He constantly has to be near me, scratches the couch when I don’t pay attention to him at the time, and will knock over and destroy things in my house. Everyone else thinks he’s sweet, but I know the real Steve. I’ve woken up in the middle of the night only to find Steve intently staring at me while I sleep. Probably plotting my demise.

So anyways, I was thinking that maybe Steve liked this guy so much because he finally found someone as evil as he was. That HAS to be the answer, because Steve has always had my back. Or so I thought. MAYBE Steve pushed away the nice guys in order for a bad one to come along so that him and the bad guy could cause terror to everyone they knew. I sometimes think Steve has some evil plan to take over the world.

But his plan is ruined! Sorry Steve, I’m single again. You’ll have to put up with just me for awhile.

I went to my friend’s wedding last night and it was so nice. I ended up taking my mother with me because I didn’t have a date to go with anymore, but that was cool because I had a great time with her. It was nice to sit and relax with someone that smiled. Even though she probably would have rather been home, it was great to have her there.

For a few days before, she was like ‘You know, if you get a better offer from another guy, I’ll understand and you can go with him.”

I’m like ‘Mom, the wedding is two days away, what better offer is going to come?’ It wasn’t like I could just ask one of the customers to go with me at the last minute, although I thought about a few people I could ask.

Instead I emailed my friend the other day and he told me he was going to a wedding without a date too the same night I was. Immediately I thought, Ooh, I wonder if he’s going to the same wedding, we could meet up there! But he checked his invitation and it wasn’t the same as mine. Still, if I had done a little planning earlier on, we probably could have met up and gone to both weddings. But still, I had a good time with my mommy.

Weddings are fun. It’s nice to see two people so happy with each other.

I was reading something on the Internet the other night that said sometimes people are just going to end up alone for the rest of their lives. That there isn’t someone out there for everyone. Kinda sad to think about that, don’t you think?

What if I’m one of those people? I’m a people-person and enjoy being in public. I can’t imagine growing old by myself and not having someone to share my life with. But maybe that’s what is in store for me.

However, I’m going to try hard not to let that happen. There are some people out there that like to be alone, they are loners and could go through life being completely content with it.

Sure, you can become comfortable with living the single life, but does that give you reason to never enjoy your life with someone else?

Many people tell me they are happy being single, and I can’t say that I am. Sure, I am content being single, but I’d rather be in a relationship/marriage/whatever. I just can’t believe that someone could be ‘happy’ living the single life. I would feel like there’s something missing. But whatever, everyone is different, and these are only my thoughts.

What is your opinion on this? Do you think a person can be happy being by themselves and never have a loving relationship ever again?

Do you ever feel like giving up on finding someone? It’s like, when you meet someone you finally like, then things don’t work out and you break up, you have to do it all over again. Searching for someone, learning about them, telling them about yourself…it’s like a neverending cycle.

I have a few friends that go online and meet people and they say the same thing. They are tired of doing it over and over and are ready to quit and just stay single for awhile.  It seems to them like it’s always such a hassle to have to start over.

As for me, I have fun dating people, and when it happens to end with someone, I usually give myself a little time before I will go on a date with someone new. Depending on how much I liked that previous person, I give myself time to ‘mourn’ so to say, even if I was the one to break it off.

I would definitely suggest taking a break if you are getting tired of the single life. Spend time with yourself and do things with your friends. Then when you’re ready, jump back in and I’m sure you’ll have fun.

I have two cats, and even though they drive me crazy sometimes, I still love them. Why do I love them so much? Because they are always there for me.

They’ve been there when I’ve come home crying, or when I’m depressed and even when I’m blissfully happy. They are always there and don’t ever judge me for the moods I’m in, they just listen.

They listen to me cry about my problems, they listen as I pet them, and they crawl on my lap when they know I’m feeling bad.

I think a pet is a great idea for a single person. If you are tired of coming home to an empty house, a pet is a great way to add that missing companionship in your life.

Just remember though. If you ever do find that special person in your life that you want to be with, make sure they accept your pet also. There’s nothing sadder than abandoning the friend you have had for years and the one that has always been there for you.

I have a job where I work with the public. I see about 200 people a day and have become friends with many of them. Of course they ask me about my life and what I’m up to, and the dreaded conversation always comes up.

“Are you married?”

“No.”

“Oh. How old are you?”

“30.”

“Not even any kids?”

“No.”

“Huh. Isn’t it time you found the right one yet? Soon you’ll be too old.”

Too old. Yes, there it is. In some form or other, I always seem to get stares or comments because I’m 30 and single. At first it used to really bother me. I’d go home and sit there wondering what was wrong with myself. Now, I see so many people unhappy in their marriage that it makes me kind of glad I’m single.

Sure it gets tiring trying to find the right guy and dating all the wrong ones, but if I make it fun then it’s not so bad.

How about any of you singles out there? What’s the worst comment you’ve ever hard regarding your single status?