Are You Kidding Me?

So, I had my sister sign up for eHarmony about a month ago, and this Friday she’s going to meet someone. They are meeting at a place about a half hour from us, and she wants me to go with her.

But she has rules.

1) I can’t look at her.

2) I can’t laugh.

3) I can’t make fun of her afterwards.

4) I can’t laugh. (She stressed this point many times)

Honestly, I hope I can follow all of her rules. It’s going to be hard, because I’ll want to pick on her for everything I see her do.

But I’ll be good.

I think.

Considering most people think we’re twins (I don’t see it), I don’t see how this guy won’t recognize me if he happens to see me. Luckily, I’ll be there with my friend and he’ll keep me from exposing my identity.

Which makes me wonder….has anyone out there also gone with their friends to give them support when meeting someone online? How did it go? Did you have to rescue your friend during the date?

Being sick sucks bigtime. Hmm…say that 5 times fast.

At least I’m getting better though. I actually woke up this morning and could swallow, so that’s a plus.

Smooth Talker stopped into the store yesterday. Twice. Naturally I was there by myself..I mean, doesn’t all drama happen when I’m there alone and have no one to back me up?

Once again, he went on and on about us being in a relationship together. Said he was falling in love with me, etc.etc. I know I shouldn’t have, but I argued with him on all of the things he was saying. Honestly, I just don’t see why he doesn’t give up. I mean, I get that he thinks I’m a challenge, but doesn’t there come a time when he gets tired of chasing when he isn’t getting any results? It’s been two months already. Besides, all he has to do is post another Craigslist ad and then he can have swarms of girls beating down his door.

I’ve been talking to some really nice people lately, from eHarmony and other blogs, and taking up my time doing that. I’ve also been sitting here bored off my ass for that past 4 days, but I guess it’s better that things are nice and peaceful right now instead of hectic and drama-filled.

I’m starting to realize that there are very few normal people in my town.  Time to branch out I guess… 

I’ve gotten zero Christmas shopping done. I hate shopping by myself because it’s boring. Anyone want to come with me? Pleeeease?

I feel bad for my friend. He’s having girl problems. He met a girl on eHarmony about a year ago, they hung out a few times and then she disappeared.

Well recently she contacted him again, and they started dating for two months. He took her to Vegas, and that’s when it all seemed to go downhill from there. After they got back, she was being distant and it’s been two weeks since they hung out.

So a few days ago, she texts him that she’s an independent girl and doesn’t think they are right for each other. They ended up talking about it a little through the phone, but after it was done, they were broken up.

So two days later, she decides to send him an email with ‘Question’ as the subject. In the email, she proceeds to tell him that her mom wants to know what she wants for Christmas, and she wants these speakers, but doesn’t know anything about them, so in this email she’s asking my friend if he can give her any info about the speakers.

Umm…what?

Needless to say, this email from her pissed him off. They never discussed being friends or anything, it had just ended, and here she is using him for information.

Of course, my advice to him was to respond back with a few choice curse words telling her where she can shove those speakers. But, he did the smart thing and never responded to her, so now she’s texting him things like ‘Are you mad?’ and ‘My friend saw you on Match.com, looks like you didn’t wait long’ and stupid stuff like that.

If i’m correct, this is just another crazy drama queen girl. I mean, she broke up with him, so why is she still trying to talk to him?

When I’ve done the breaking up, I want nothing to do with the person. Not even to ‘console’ them, because I’ve learned that that just gives the person hope and later on proceed to stalk you.

Anyway, my point is that girls are just as crazy as guys. And some girls don’t notice a good thing when they’ve got it.

Okay, so my friend and I went up to Panera’s last night so she could break up with her boyfriend. It was raining really bad and I hate driving in the rain, but we finally made it there (in separate cars) and we talked on the phone the whole time rehearsing what she was going to say. (Thank god for Bluetooth).

So I ended up getting there before her, so I went in, ordered some food and stood there waiting for it. I had no idea if her boyfriend was already there or anything. So I see my friend in line and I want to laugh, because I know I’m secretly there and somehow I find that funny.

I end up sitting near the front window, I don’t know why, mostly because that’s where most of the people were, and I wanted to blend in with the crowd. Soon after, I see her walking around looking for him, then I get a text from her telling me to move to a booth, so I can be closer to them in case something goes wrong.

I had all my food, paperwork, books and everything spread out all across the table, and I wasn’t about to get up and move to a booth. For one, all the people around me would wonder what the hell I was doing, and 2) I felt quite comfortable sitting by the door,  because I could see everyone that walked in.

And sure enough, her boyfriend soon walked in. I knew it was him because he was carrying a pink bag of hers that she had left at his place. He walked over by me, looking for her, and thank god my phone rang as he was doing this. So I answered my phone and had a 10 minute conversation with someone while avoiding looking suspicious.

There’s actually not much left to the story…I started doing some work on my book and about a half hour the both of them emerged from a booth and walked to the door. So about 10 minutes later she called me to say she was safely away from Panera’s and that I was free to leave. I’m not sure if we had planned to do something after that whole thing, but I ended up doing some shopping on my own since I was a half hour away from home and near some good stores. I’m the laziest person on the planet when it comes to shopping, so I took advantage of this.

As for her now ex-boyfriend? He took it well, he ended up consoling her because she felt so bad about breaking up with him. She’s sad now, but she’ll get better soon. We all feel bad after breaking up with someone, but soon the sad feelings and guilt go away.

So, there was no drama like we expected. It was just peaceful and quiet and I think it was best for both of them.

So….my friend is going to break up with her boyfriend today because she just isn’t happy. I think they’ve only been together a few months, but she’s seen some signs that make her uncomfortable. I say…good for her in getting out early.

She wants to meet him in a public place to do it, instead of at either of their houses, so they are meeting somewhere today and she wants me to go there with her. We won’t arrive together or anything, I’m just going to bring a book, get some pop or something and sit there and read.

I’m not even going to look around for her, because of course I’d make it obvious, but if I happen to see her I’ll keep an eye on things. I told her to text me when she leaves so I know she’s gone.

She’s actually on her way over to my place now because they aren’t meeting for another few hours. I have nothing else to do today, so I’m more than happy to go. Even if I had something to do, I’d cancel and still go up there with her because I know she’s nervous about him causing a scene or getting really angry or something.

I’ve never met the guy, so I don’t know who I’m looking for. But it’ll be nice to just sit somewhere and know that some type of drama is going on. Well, not a nice thing, but still. I’ll be there for a reason.

I think I hear her pulling in now. I’ll let you know how it goes.

Today I stayed home and did absolutely nothing. I had all these plans to do stuff, but just sat on the couch all day mostly writing some articles and watching movies. It’s kind of nice to do that once in awhile. I guess I got some work done, but nothing I had planned.

A friend called me up today and invited me to go shopping. I politely declined, because there was no way I was going out on Black Friday. I don’t care how many deals there are out there, I can’t stand crowds and crowds of people, and usually get cranky and mean when forced into a large crowd, so I decided to give society a break today and stay home.

Anyways, the friend that had called is one I haven’t talked to in awhile, and she called me to ask about eHarmony, because she heard I had signed up. She just wanted to know basic questions about it, but it got us talking about meeting people for the first time. She said that recently she met someone from Pennsylvania, so now that she got that one meeting out of the way, she wasn’t afraid to meet anyone else.

I hope it’s like that for me the first time I meet someone there. Since I’m not used to meeting people over the Internet, it’s kind of a new thing for me.

Does the whole eHarmony process seem like one big long interview?

I get a lot of people asking questions about what to do when he said he would call or text and doesn’t. Well, for one, if a guy is really interested in you, provided that some accident or family problem hasn’t happened, he will definitely get ahold of you if he wants to.

But what do you do when he says he’ll call or text and you are sitting around waiting because he hasn’t?

If it were me, I would call or text once, leave a message and see if he gets back to me. I’ve already made the initiative once by doing this, so now it is up to him to respond. And as far as waiting goes? Find something else to do during this time so you aren’t constantly watching your phone.

If he never responds back, then chances are he wasn’t going to call you in the first place. Don’t make it worse by constantly sending more messages or voicemails, this will only make you look less than desirable.

Sometimes men can say a lot of things they don’t mean, thus leading you on and hoping he will call wanting to go out. Busy yourself with doing something else, and try not to think twice if he hasn’t contacted you. That just means he wasn’t worth your time anyways.

So I convinced my friend to join eHarmony this weekend, mostly because she’s tired of meeting the wrong guys as well. Not that eHarmony would necessarily have the right guys, it’s just something different.

So now she’s all into it and excited to get responses from people. We ended up having her call eHarmony to get a discount for 3 months, since I couldn’t find any good codes online. I would recommend that to anyone wanting to join - call them and they’ll give you a good deal.

It’s kind of exciting to meet different types of people and also to know there are lots of people out there. Sometimes I feel like I’m stuck here in Ohio, but I also love Cleveland sometimes, it’s a cool place with many different things to do. I guess I just need to go out more to different events. Except in the wintertime, I hate that.

I might go gambling tomorrow, depends on how I feel when I wake up. I have to time it right so I don’t get stuck in rush hour traffic. I get nervous driving with so many cars close around me.

I ran into a woman I know today…and she’s gone through some rough patches in life recently. She’s 50 years old, and the man she was with for 32 years left her and decided to move away…(yet still calls her telling her he loves her, etc.).

Anyway, she told me today that she joined eHarmony in an effort to get out there. Sure, she was still crying over her ex, but wants to move on with her life and find someone that she can spend some time with.

I was surprised and happy for her at the same time. I know eHarmony is something that anyone can try, I just always thought people my age and younger used it. But good for her for getting herself back in the dating scene.  She got me thinking about how it’s never too late and no matter what happens in life, you can always look forward and try to make things better.

I hope she finds someone through eHarmony. I’m sure it’ll be difficult for her with all the emotions she’s dealing with, but maybe she will find someone that wants to be happy just like she does.

I was out with my friend yesterday and we started to have a conversation about the new guy she’s seeing. She met him off of eHarmony about a month or two ago.

Well, we got on the subject of her cats, and she was telling me how this new guy was allergic to animals. I asked her what she would do if they got married. And this friend, who we call the Crazy Cat Lady because she LOVES her cats, actually said that she’s thought about that and would have to give them up.

I was…..surprised. She’s had two of these cats since they were little babies, and they are now about 6 years old. I was shocked that she would give her animals up just because the guy she Thinks she may marry one day is allergic.

Aren’t there medicines out there our something that he could take? I don’t know, I would never give my two cats up for anyone. Yes, I may highly dislike my evil cat Steve, but all they know is me and I could never do that to them. They’ve been there for me when I’ve cried, come home in a bad mood, needed a hug, etc.

How could I ever abandon them because of a relationship I think MIGHT work out? And what if it doesn’t work out, and I gave my cats away…I know I’d be regretting it big time.

My thoughts on this are that if a guy likes me, he has to like everything about me, including my two cats. Sure, they aren’t going to live forever, but they are here with me now, and the person I’m with has to accept that. (And be an animal lover himself.)

What do you think? Would you give up your animals if a guy was allergic to them?